The Love We Think We Deserve - Brighton Fringe
The Love We Think We Deserve
Around 1 in a 100 people live with Borderline Personality Disorder, yet it is one of the most misunderstood and stigmatized mental health conditions out there. Online searches reinforce harmful stereotypes and the majority of articles on mental health advise you how to “spot borderlines” – so you can avoid them. Rosie Cappuccino writes in her book, ‘talking about BPD’: “A couple of clicks reveal widespread derogatory attitudes towards the condition [...] YouTube videos [...] warn that people with BPD are more trouble than they are worth, impossible to connect with and incapable of love. [...] for many people the risks of being deemed untrustworthy, incapable or even dangerous can be too high. [...] Many people [...] feel safer disclosing anything but BPD.” With this play, I aim to give an insight into what living with BPD feels like and contribute to breaking down the stigma, bit by bit.
“I am not the other. I am one of you. Speak about me as if I were in the room- because I am.”

Cast & Creative Team


Performed, written and directed by: Anna Bontovics

Creative Consultant: Stuart Crowther

Assistant choreographer and dancer: Mariana Pires

Sound: Matt Ellis

Voices: Megan Brooks and Matt Ellis

Special thanks to: LIPA, Toussaint To Move, Babel Theatre, Animikii Theatre Company and Rosie Cappuccino (Talking About BPD Blog).

Company: Wallflower Theatre Company

(Website)

Genre: Theatre

Duration: 65 mins


Venues: The Lantern @ ACT


Venue Accessibility:

Assistance Dogs Welcome Assistance Dogs Welcome

This is combined information – if this event is happening across multiple venues, please be aware this may not be applicable across all performances.

For any queries about venue accessibility, including step free access, please contact box office.

Age suitability: 16+ (Guideline)

Babes in Arms policy: Under 2's are not allowed at this event.

Content Warnings:

 Audience Interaction Audience Interaction

 Strong Language Strong Language

 References to Mental Illness References to Mental Illness

 References to Sexual Abuse References to Sexual Abuse

 References to Suicide/Self Harm References to Suicide/Self Harm

Additional Content Warning:
Strictly ages 15 and above- contains heavy themes. Discussion of stigmatization of mental health conditions and discrimination against people diagnosed with personality disorders. Non-explicit discussions of suicidal thoughts and self-harming behaviours. Brief, non-explicit discussion of causes of aforementioned mental health conditions (eg. abuse and neglect). Non-graphic description of sexual assault.

Contact for Touch Tour Enquiries [email protected]

May 18, 2026

7:00 pm

The Lantern @ ACT

Standard: £12

Conc: £8 paid

May 19, 2026

5:00 pm

The Lantern @ ACT

Standard: £12

Conc: £8 paid


×





Please Wait
Talking to the Box Office...

×
×





Please Wait
Talking to the Box Office...

×
Skip to content